Bullying is considered as the top reason behind the growth of homeschooling. As we all know no matter how many measures are taken against it, it still happens. At a young age, it is hard to understand what is actually happening. Due to this, children often surrender to physical and emotional abuse. Most parents feel their child is safe from bullying when he is homeschooled. The point is that he is safe, but there is another point of view in the same situation.
Isn’t he being taught to run away from the situation?
Isn’t it a temporary solution to a problem that might come in later phases of life?
Importance Of Facing The Fear
Well, the truth is that it might seem like a good option but indirectly it is running away from the fear rather than facing it. The fact is that fear becomes more powerful when it isn’t faced. Most of the parents go for homeschooling after the damage has been done. In simpler words, once the child is bullied then he is homeschooled. The scars of being bullied accompany him for a lifetime. Most of the parents opt for homeschooling just because their child is acting differently. This means what really happens stays with the child and is not easy to forget.
On the other hand, what you are teaching him is to run away as soon as something bothers him a little. He will never be confident in his life and will never learn to fight for himself. What you can rather do is teach him to stand up for himself when something wrong happens. The only thing that can be done to get rid of a bully is by speaking up for it.
Teach him that it is ok to have fear but it is not ok to surrender to it. When in such a situation, he must come to you or the teachers first and discuss it. He must be comfortable and frank with you to discuss such an issue. Most of them suffer silently because they either think no one would listen or are too afraid to even talk about a bully.
It is important for the teachers as well to know different sides of the story. The bullies often trap innocent children in situations they have no control over. Due to this, the victim gets punished and the goal of the bully is achieved. Once the child realizes that he is going to be portrayed wrong no matter what he stops taking a stand for himself. So, who exactly is responsible for the silent suffering, the victim or us?
Instead of teaching your child to run away and stay at home to avoid these little barriers, you need to teach him to stand up for himself. Teach him that instead of accepting when he is not wrong, fight for it. Fight until the truth is out. Moreover, make him understand that the bully or the fear can only take over his mind if he let him. It is your responsibility to make him learn to face his fears rather than running away from them throughout his life.