Dealing with social anxiety can be a troublesome task when it comes down to children. From a young age, some people develop a fear of interacting with people and it stays with them for their entire lifetime if no steps are taken. The problem is most of the parents fail to realize their child is dealing with social phobia. If all he does is avoid social gatherings or parties and stay quiet around other people then you need to take some action. If dealt with properly it is something that you can get over.
The Fear Of Being Judged
Firstly, you need to understand that the major reason behind less interaction with people is the fear of being judged. There are some things in your child which he is insecure about. It could be excessive weight, stammering, poor sense of humor, etc. There are so many things he is afraid to face which leads him to an endless circle of self-doubt. Every time he goes out he is afraid of people looking at him or talking about him when in reality no one is. This fear can only go when he confronts it and talks himself out of it. But as a child, it is difficult for him to understand his own situation.
This social anxiety disorder will not only affect his academic performance but also affect his mental health. There are some childhood scars that stay with a person for a lifetime and haunts him. In order to ensure your child is not a victim of this issue, there are some steps you can take.
What He Must Do When Anxiety Shows Up?
Most of the children have no idea what they should do when they become anxious. Anxiety can take over your body in a few minutes. In such a scenario, you need to teach him to relax. The best way to cope with anxiety is deep breathing. This will calm him down and his mind will be more aware of the step he must take next. Develop a habit of meditation in your child as there is no better way to calm an anxious mind. He needs to understand that he is controlling his mind not the other way round.
Replace The Negative Thought (Socialization)
Most of the children deal with the issue of negative thinking. The only thing that goes in their mind is what could go wrong. Firstly, you must make them understand that it is ok to have negative thoughts and there is no need to run from them. Let them come as they please as running from your own thoughts will only make it worse. But the moment you feel something negative try your best to replace it with what could go right. There is a huge difference between running from negative thoughts and replacing them with a positive one. For example, if he thinks he will forget his lines while public speaking then tells him to replace this thought with the feeling of satisfaction after completing his speech and walking down.
These were some steps you can take to deal with a social anxiety disorder in your child. One step at a time and he will get better at socialization.